A Sex Convo

[14:20] 2dizz: if a girl was drinking and being very flirtatious, would you attempt to close the deal anyways
[14:20] fashiggity: if its only to me.. yeap
[14:21] fashiggity: but she gotta look decent
[14:21] 2dizz: even if you knew if she was sober and probably had these feelings she would probably hold off
[14:21] koiphish: Yup
[14:22] fashiggity: anything to break the tension
[14:22] koiphish: Back in the days, I was all about that chivalry bullshit, and I had the mistaken idea that women wouldn't do shit sober that they would drunk
[14:22] fashiggity: chivalry is something for role playing after you tax dat ass
[14:22] fashiggity: nelly furtado said it best
[14:23] fashiggity: chivalry is dead, but its still kinda cute
[14:23] koiphish: Nowadays, I'm aware that women use things like "drinking too much" as an excuse in their own minds to justify actions that they want to perform, but don't want to be judged for doing.
[14:24] fashiggity: yeah.. i think women are in transition of that so called sweet image they're supposed to portray
[14:24] fashiggity: to knowing what they want and out there pursuing it
[14:24] 2dizz’Wifey: it actually depends
[14:24] koiphish: A girl will find a way to justify shit in her own mind so that she feels "good" or "okay" about shit she's done.
[14:24] fashiggity: because i heard in europe.. women are aggressive
[14:24] 2dizz’Wifey: many women do, but i've almost done something very dumb being very drunk
[14:25] 2dizz’Wifey: luckily i started to sober up before i did
[14:25] koiphish: What, get married?
[14:25] koiphish: If it's good enough for Brittney Spears....
[14:25] 2dizz’Wifey: no, i almost slept with some guy that i really would've regretted sleeping with
[14:26] 2dizz’Wifey: he was cute, but i didn't really know him like that
[14:26] 2dizz’Wifey: i woulda been super pissed with myself
[14:26] fashiggity: now why would you have been super pissed about sleepin w/ dude
[14:27] 2dizz’Wifey: because i didn't know him... i fdon't just go hopping into bed with folks because they are cute. i think a lot of myself and i don't just go handing myself to every tom, dick, and harry to use
[14:27] koiphish: I'm of the mind that you're not gonna do something off the wall when you're drunk. You're gonna do stuff you want to do with the inhibitions turned off
[14:28] koiphish: That type of stuff generally won't computer to guys
[14:28] 2dizz’Wifey: anyway, he mde it to my house and i was like, wtf am i doing
[14:28] koiphish: To me? It's just sex.
[14:28] 2dizz’Wifey: and then i pretended i was sick
[14:28] koiphish: It's as natural as breathing, or eating, or drinking
[14:28] 2dizz’Wifey: so he would leave
[14:28] koiphish: I guess. I can't relate.
[14:29] 2dizz’Wifey: men are different from women
[14:29] 2dizz’Wifey: emotionally we operate differently
[14:29] 2dizz’Wifey: *shrugs*
[14:29] fashiggity: im in the same boat with koi
[14:29] 2dizz’Wifey: i know how i would feel about it
[14:29] 2dizz’Wifey: and i know i didn't even really like him
[14:29] koiphish: All this romanticized, mysterious, otherworldly emphasis on the act is as old as chivalry, to me.
[14:30] 2dizz’Wifey: not like that
[14:30] fashiggity: yeah
[14:30] fashiggity: i mean.. getting to know as a friend?
[14:30] fashiggity: the friend zone = no nalaga
[14:30] koiphish: I'm not knocking what you did, or your take on it, mind you.
[14:30] 2dizz’Wifey: if a woman sleeps with a man more than 3 times she gets attached (generally speaking)
[14:31] 2dizz’Wifey: he wasn't someone i had any desire to form an attachment to
[14:31] koiphish: Wow. Now THAT makes sense.
[14:31] 2dizz’Wifey: i've tried to figure out why women get attached after sleeping with a guy
[14:31] 2dizz’Wifey: and my best guess is that it's because ur inviting someone INSIDE you
[14:31] 2dizz’Wifey: it's a very personal thing
[14:31] koiphish: I wish women would say that, instead of putting sex up on this crazy pedestal, like having sex makes them terrible people.
[14:31] fashiggity: exactly
[14:32] fashiggity: thats where it seemed this discussion is heading
[14:32] fashiggity: i mean, isnt that the 'emotional' bondage come from that ideology of 'sex is terrible' ?
[14:32] fashiggity: the idea that because they invite him in, they gotta put a ring in that?
[14:32] 2dizz’Wifey: i don't think sex is a terrible thing
[14:32] 2dizz’Wifey: sex is awesome
[14:33] 2dizz’Wifey: but to me, it's something i wnt to share with someone i care about
[14:33] 2dizz’Wifey: and it has nothing to do with a ring
[14:33] 2dizz’Wifey: it's just a natural emotional attachment
[14:34] 2dizz’Wifey: *shrugs*
[14:34] 2dizz’Wifey: i already know better
[14:34] koiphish: Not wanting to get attached makes sense. Getting attached because you're having sex with someone makes sense. Fighting desires merely for the sake of not being judged makes no sense, not to me.